What to Say When Someone Becomes Unexpectedly Pregnant

When someone becomes unexpectedly pregnant, it can be a very confusing and emotional time. This unexpected pregnancy has taken them by surprise, and they have some important decisions to make during the next couple of months. However, as a friend, it is important to be understanding and sensitive. You may be wondering how you can offer support. Here are a few tips on what to say when someone becomes unexpectedly pregnant.

Offer Encouragement

The best thing you can do for someone who becomes unexpectedly pregnant is offer words of support and encouragement. Many expecting parents are often concerned about the transition into parenthood. As a family member or friend, you can lend an ear and offer kind words of encouragement to help them with their doubted feelings. Here are a few examples:

• “You’ve got this; you’re not alone; we are all here to help you.”
• “I am here for you no matter what.”
• “I admire your strength; you are handling this well.”
• “You are brave and capable I know you can do this.”

Remind Them That They Can Still Achieve Their Goals

Goals and dreams are still important despite an unexpected pregnancy. Remind them that they can still achieve their goals. It might take a little bit longer; however, when you set your mind to it, it can be done. For example, your friend may want to become a teacher. The lovely thing about the internet is that you can do online courses, and in your spare time, this enables you to still reach your goals and achieve your dreams. Online teaching is very popular, and many students look for extra support.

Seek Professional Help

The next thing you can say to someone who becomes unexpectedly pregnant is to try and encourage them to seek professional help either from a qualified nurse, doctor, or counselor. They will be able to help them understand and control their emotions and practical views during the situation.

Don’t Give Unwanted Advice

As the pregnancy is unplanned, we are assuming the parents have not had the chance to plan. This is going to take them some time to put a plan of action in place. As a supportive friend or family member, be mindful of the words you use, and don’t overstep your boundaries when providing support. However, even though you may have many thoughts that you would like to share, it is up to the expecting parents to make their own decisions. Keep in mind that they can always ask you for advice when they need to. Remember to be kind. If need be, they can always carry on with the pregnancy and consider adoption.

Closing Thoughts

Offer your support and assist with running errands and helping with child care. Assist with resources and advice that can help them make an informed and positive decision. Remember that each person has different feelings and emotions, and the choices they make are ultimately up to them, and your job is to be supportive.

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